Whenever I meet couples who have been married for decades, I ask them what the secret is. After all, they have made it this far, right?
So what is the secret?
I mean, these are the answers that most people who have been marrried for 30, 40 or 50 years would say. Couldn't agree more to all four of them! Some truth to them all. But, want to know what I think the secret is?
Understand that the other person will let you down repeatedly. That they aren't perfect. They weren't before you got married and they aren't going to be just because they wear your ring. Be okay with this. Love them for their flaws.
Mind blown, right????
You see, I have been with my spouse (Floydie....don't ask him why we call him that), for over 22 years. We will celebrate our 18th wedding anniversary in August of 2018. He is a good man. A great dad. A decent husband. He puts up with my crap, so gold star right there!
But, he is far, far, far from perfect. Honestly, I think about shaving his head while he is sleeping (he has long hair, so it would be a shock to have strip down the center shaved off)! He drives me ABSOLUTLEY crazy, like insane most of the time. He is not as driven as I am, does not like the movies I like, makes fun of the books I read and well, the list goes on. He has let me down, pissed me off, to the point I think it would be easier to do it alone!
However, he is my Floydie.
He is who I chose. He is the father of my children. He is the guy who will wake up at 5:00AM to run and get me cream for my coffee because we are out, and the guy who will shovel a path to my car in the winter, so I don't have to. He is the guy that makes me laugh and still has a dirty mind after all these years. He supports me in all my endeavors, and cooks dinner (amen, right there).
Marriage is a major b*tch. Sometimes she is pure evil. But, at the same time it is really cool to build a life with someone, to create amazing memories with them. To have someone to do something with all the time.
He might be asking for a slap to the back of the head, but he is my best friend and perfect or not, he is my husband.
So, cut your partner some slack and remind yourself everyday why you fell in love with them. After all, they are just a person and people are definitely not perfect!
Thanks for reading!
Sina Sena is a small island, Alaska girl, who has BIG goals! She is a novice coffee connoisseur loves romance novels and is always down to eat sweets! She is married to her high school sweetheart, and they are trying to not get run over by their three boys! As a mom she believes that it is important to maintain her own identity and knows she is better because she works hard everyday to pursue her own goals. If you ever want to talk business, it is what makes her want to leap out of bed everyday (except in the winter, because Alaska is freaking cold then)!